For many homeowners, the interior look of their home is just as, if not more, important than the look of the outside.
Although unique furniture and extravagant artwork can help to make a room attractive and vibrant, high-quality interior paint helps all the more.
Many homeowners attempt to tackle the task of interior painting themselves, but often find themselves with a rearranged, half-painted room for several months. With Alliance Painting Tulsa, the interior of your home will be glowing with new paint in no time; and with no smudges or paint runs in sight.
Our painters are experts and will make your interior walls look so good that no one will even notice what is – or not – hanging on them!
Even a house with beautiful architecture and landscaping can be improved by a fresh coat of paint.
The outward appearance of a home is very important.
Your house is one of your biggest assets, so it’s important to use skilled and experienced painters when giving your house a new paint job.
At Alliance Painting Tulsa, we are committed to helping you spruce up the exterior of your home in any way possible; from helping you pick colors to scheduling a convenient time for you. We are sure that our qualified painters will deliver work that blows you, and your neighbors, away!
What is the difference? Well, comfort suggests a longing to free someone from their pain and make them feel a smaller amount of sadness, while support suggests a longing to offer assistance. Over time you’ve probably become good at the comfort part (we all have), so when you approach someone who is grieving your first inclination may be to fall back on words of positivity. You really want to take away their hurt and so you find yourself saying things that look for a silver lining and which begin with “at least”. Platitudes, “at leasts”, and inspiring statements may be well meant, but they often lessen the significance of a person’s loss and make it seem as though you either don’t care or aren’t giving attention to the reality that is in front of you.
Instead of endeavoring to comfort the person who’s grieving, we recommend focusing on what you can do to support them in moving forward through the hurt. Try starting with the following three steps:
“I do not want to provide comfort. I want to provide support.”
What form of support is proper bearing in mind the closeness and/or tone of my relationship with the person who’s grieving?
What does my friend or family member appear to need? Emotional support? Logistical support? Both?
What am I good at? What am I most skilled of providing? What unique strong points do I have that could be helpful?
Significant things to do:
Show sincere care and compassion:
No one knows the right thing to say, so stop stressing.
Concentrate on giving the person care and compassion. Sometimes this is as simple as asking how the person is doing and then actually listening to what they have to say.
Provide concrete assistance:
It’s useful to offer specific help. Consider a list of things you can do and then just go ahead and offer – they can always say no.
Talking to someone who will simply listen is sometimes precisely what a person needs.
Without hovering, be available to the griever by letting them know they can call at any time and by casually check in once in a while.
Grief lasts forever and people often continue to struggle for months and years after a death.
Continue to check in sporadically, especially on days that might be hard like birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s Day or Father’s Day, milestones and special events. This will send the message that you understand and accept their enduring pain.
What are some common responses when you lose someone you love?
Grief can be agonizing and overpowering, and sometimes frightening. As you grieve, you may have anxiety about your responses. You may wonder if your feelings and responses are normal. Here are some of the commonly felt grief reactions as described by many people in mourning.
You may sense a range of emotions:
Sadness or hopelessness that comes and goes suddenly
Nervousness about life without your loved one
Guilt or anger over things done and said, or things not done and said
Appreciation that your loved one’s suffering is over
Rejecting that the loss actually occurred
Relief that you no longer have to be concerned
You may experience feelings such as:
Tightness in the throat
Heaviness in the chest
Loss of appetite
Sensing your loved one’s presence
Hearing your loved one’s voice
You may act out of character:
Crying at unexpected times
Assuming the mannerisms or traits of your loved one
Exploding in anger
Telling and retelling stories about your loved one
These are all typical grief reactions. You are not going wild when you feel them. You are grieving because you dared to love.
The normal holiday hustle and bustle is stressful enough, but when you add a serious chronic illness to the mix, life can be extra challenging. The cut-and-paste New Year’s resolutions we all fall back on like losing weight might apply to your situation, but there are a few other resolutions for those facing chronic illness to consider.
1. Give Yourself a Break
When you’re juggling a chronic illness and regular life, it can be difficult to find a moment to relax and unwind – but you should. Set aside a specific time when you can do something that gives you joy; talking to an old friend, getting your nails done or reading a book are great ways to unwind.
Another way to get a break is to ask for assistance. For many, asking for assistance is one of the toughest things they’ll ever have to do. But you might be surprised at how many of your friends and family will be happy to have a specific task they can do to make things easier for you.
One of the best resolutions people facing a chronic illness can do for themselves is to become their own health advocate. Start by learning everything you can about your options, beginning with your health insurance. Make a point of understanding at least the basics of your coverage. If a procedure or prescription is denied, ask why and see if the decision can be changed. Sometimes it’s just a simple coding error that can be easily corrected.
Don’t just question health insurance providers; ask your doctor to explain all your options and the goal of each treatment as well. Make sure you’re on the same page about how the treatment will impact your quality of life. If you’re nervous about asking questions or afraid you’ll forget something, write your questions down in advance.
Finally, get your healthcare paperwork in order. Whether it’s an advance directive, a medical power of attorney or a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order, the best way to ensure your medical wishes will be respected is to put them in writing. Even healthy people can have an accident that renders them unable to communicate their wishes. Don’t wait until a crisis to have your paperwork in order.
3. Focus on What Really Matters
When you’re already stressed, it’s easy to let little things get to you. Try to remember that the most important things in life are the relationships with the people you love. Make a resolution to take time out to tell them all the things you want them to know in a life journal. Share photos, family history, and personal stories. Your family will cherish these memories for the rest of their lives.